Love and Relationship

Are We Compatible? This is a crucial question when Considering a committed relationship

Does it often appear that you don’t have much in common after the initial attraction? Are there any signs of compatibility that you should look for before you get serious with a man or woman?

• Are we compatible? The key to a successful relationship is basic compatibility. Indisputably, we all enjoy the exceptional features that someone has – I call it ‘first attraction’.

But what keeps a relationship going and makes it flourish is the compatibility between the two partners.
For some, even after answering these question(s) in their hearts, they chose to ignore the signs and move on to the relationship due to certain pressures coming from either family, peer pressure, self-pressure, or for other reasons best known to them.

But whatever the case may be, it is essential that this question is answered and decisions should be taken adequately according to the answers provided.

The matter of a relationship is not something one rushes into without prior preparations or you might end up rushing out of that relationship.

 

This article is dedicated to the young persons out there intending to get married someday.

If perchance you are reading this and you are married, it will also bless your life.

If you didn’t get it right from the beginning, it is not too late you can still turn things around and make your marriage enjoyable.

Before we continue, let’s look at what compatible means.

• It means being able to live together without conflict.
• It means for two people to be able to have a harmonious relationship, they must be well-suited, like-minded, and consistent with each other.

This is very significant when people are thinking about a lifetime commitment to each other.
If the relationship compatibility issues are ignored, it will not be difficult to tell in advance that partners will have relationship issues.

It would be helpful at the early stage for partners to do their relationship compatibility test to see how they score in the compatibility relationship test before they start.
During the initial stages of a relationship, it is uncommon for partners to identify these things, because they are so influenced by the excitement that comes with ‘being in love.’

For some young persons that are married, marriage to them is like someone took them away from liberty (singlehood) and brought them into bondage (marriage).

To those partners, marriage is like a thorn in their flesh. This could be linked to several reasons, one of which I believe, the main reason is that they never took the time to ask themselves the question “are we compatible?” we hardly ask ourselves this question before entering into a relationship.

For some, they get to know in the middle of the relationship, while for others they wake up from their slumber in marriage only to realize that the person they are staying with is not compatible.

Other times, relationship compatibility issues rise to the surface as time goes by, and there are lots of relationship issues that partners/couples have to deal with.

An example of a relationship compatibility question is where a couple has very different belief systems (they may be in the same church but they see things differently).

Their approach to life would be very different, making it very difficult for them to connect, which can affect their level of intimacy and communication.

This can also be said of people who have different political associations. It is difficult to envisage how they could relate to each other at a deeper level, this can lead to relationship communication problems.

• Are we compatible? We seriously prepare for a wedding but pay little or no attention to the issue of compatibility.

This is one of the major reasons why dreams are crushed after marriage.

There are situations where husbands prevent their wives from the privilege of pursuing the dream they had before getting married.

You can help yourself by asking yourself “are we compatible?”

• Will this person I’m committing myself to for the rest of my life help me achieve my dream?
• Can we pursue this vision together?
• Before you say yes to someone’s daughter or son, make sure you have answered this question truthfully – “Are we compatible?”
• Compatibility has nothing to do with whether the person is rich or not.

• The compatibility issue is beyond flamboyant weddings. the person may be well-to-do but without compatibility, you need to be careful.

Some are compromising and leading unfulfilled lives today because they failed to tackle this thing from the beginning.

Sometimes, partners differ in attitude but end up being in a relationship. One is a visionary, the other is a doubter. Often, they are not even aware there is such a dissimilarity between them. It can be obvious to others who know them but not to the partners themselves.

• Before you commit to somebody, check out these guidelines for determining your relationship compatibility:

1. Compatibility of backgrounds.

This may be the least important part, the closer two people’s backgrounds are, the more compatible they are likely to be. (Same church, ethnic, or political backgrounds give partners something in common. It is often easier or more likely to connect with someone with a similar background. Compatibility in a relationship normally begins with these basic resemblances.

To be continued in part 2…

By: Stephen Adzasu